People are like puzzle pieces. You search for the right ones. You pick up a few that don’t fit, and in frustration try to place them back in the pile. A few fall on the floor, and you seemingly lose them forever at that point. A few feel absolutely impossible to find. But sometimes, a piece just fits. You don’t have to rotate it around. You don’t have to force it into the space. It just falls into place seamlessly. Sometimes, relationships are like that, too. Sometimes, you just fit, and it’s incredibly clear that you are supposed to be that way.
Everyone admires some couple in their lives whether they are their parents, friends, celebrities, grandparents or anyone. There are people who have amazing relationships and you have admired them in life and you have to have their kind of bond and understanding in your relationship.
Here are 10 ways you can know if your relationship measures up:
1. You are best friends with each other:
You rock at being best friends, which makes you an unstoppable couple. Go give each other a high five or a fist bump, because you’re pretty much kicking ass at this whole relationship thing.
2. You are comfortable with each other:
Your personalities complement each other well, and you bring out the brightest, most comfortable versions of each other.
3. You stand for each other in every situation:
You appreciate each other through it all, because you know that no matter what you face together, you’re supposed to be together.
4. You make goals together:
You appreciate and are genuinely interested in each other’s passions.
5. You speak your mind, You don’t have to fake it:
Relationships thrive when couples can express themselves freely and honestly. That means no topic is off-limits, and you both feel heard. Consistent communication is vital to building a lasting life together.
6. You have your own space:
Just because you’re in love doesn’t mean you have to spend every moment together. Taking time to pursue your own interests and friendships keeps your relationship fresh and gives you both the opportunity to grow as individuals even while you’re growing as a couple.
7. You make decisions mutually:
You don’t call all the shots, neither does your partner. From what movie to watch to how many children to have, you make decisions together and listen to each other’s concerns and desires. Sure, this may mean you watch Transformers on Saturday night, but on Sunday it’s your turn.
8. You trust each other.
Healthy relationships are built on trust and a commitment to communication without reservations or secrets.
9. You use the 3 Magical words frequently:
“I Love You”.
10. You fight, you initiate to apologize.
Disagreements are normal, so if you aren’t fighting, chances are you’re holding back. But when people in healthy relationships fight, they fight productively and fairly. It also means striving to understand your partner instead of trying to score points. And when you’re wrong, you apologize.